In this 16-week series, we'll explore the four facets of the self through the practices of cultivating wholeness from the book Wild Mind, combining the various portals to the facets of the self for expanded experiences of who we are and the resources available to us in every moment. We will also identify and befriend the main subpersonalities -- the fragmented parts of our selves -- as a means of integrating them into our wholeness. This is an experimental series that combines the works of Nonviolent Communication with Wild Mind.
Wednesday Dates: 3/2, 3/9, 3/16, 3/23, 3/30, 4/6, 4/13, 4/20, 4/27, 5/4, 5/11, 5/18, 5/25, 6/1, 6/8, 6/15
Times: 11am - 12:30pm PDT (2pm - 3:30pm EDT)
Optional: 12:30pm - 1pm PDT is provided for additional discussion and questions
Personal Work: 1 - 2 hours a week required for outdoor practices
Optional Reading: 1 - 2 hours a week for reading the book Wild Mind (series focused on connecting within Plotkin's "Horizontal Plane" -- sessions generally correspond to chapters in the book)
Location: Sessions online on Zoom; link provided with registration. Personal work to be done outdoors in a wild, semi-wild place.
Note: Zoom sessions main room recorded and available for registered participants through members-only webpage.
"It’s time to take another look at ourselves — to re-enliven our sense of what it is to be human, to breathe new life into ancient intuitions of who we are, and to learn again to celebrate, as we once did, our instinctive affinity with the Earth community in which we’re rooted. We’re called now to rediscover what it means to be human beings in a wildly diverse world of feathered, furred, and scaled fellow creatures; flowers and forests; mountains, rivers, and oceans; wind, rain, and snow; Sun and Moon. It’s time to take an ecological and holistic look at the human psyche, to make a fresh start with Western psychology." - excerpt from "Wild Mind" by Bill Plotkin
"Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a way of focusing our attention on what's alive in order to facilitate compassionate giving and receiving." -- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.
"Our human psyches possess astonishing resources that wait within us, but we might not even know they exist until we discover how to access them and cultivate their powers, their untapped potentials and depths. Wild Mind identifies these resources — which Bill Plotkin calls the four facets of the Self, or the four dimensions of our innate human wholeness — and also the four sets of fragmented or wounded subpersonalities that form during childhood. Rather than proposing ways to eliminate our subpersonalities (which is not possible) or to beat them into submission, Plotkin describes how to cultivate the four facets of the Self and discover the gifts of our subpersonalities." - excerpt from the "Wild Mind" by Bill Plotkin
Escape the flatland of yawning interactions!
Bring conversations to life through the connected self you always wanted!
After years of practicing NVC, identifying my feelings, connecting with my needs, I’d still find times when I behave in ways that don’t match my values -- when I was overcome with an intensity of feeling that overrode the “good compassionate” person I was trying to become.
I discovered Bill Plotkin’s “Nature and the Human Soul” in 2012, where he lays out eight stages of maturity, and I came to realize that I needed more work for growing out of adolescence into adulthood. It wasn’t until I came across Wild Mind that I came to understand and value wholeness — how the human experience has at least 4 dimensions, and I was focusing mostly on my North — my Nurturing Generative Adult, the part of me that’s compassionate, acknowledges and accepts differences (including my own), and wants to contribute meaningfully to a better world. This is the part of me that practices Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
Furthermore, I realized how diagnosing and healing areas of my life seemed pointless and never ending because my ego didn’t have a stable place to go. In reading, and in participating in Animas Valley's Wild Mind intensive in 2018, I began to grow into the cocoon of cultivating wholeness — how parts of my East (Innocent, Sage, Trickster), South (Wild Indigenous One), and West (Dark Muse Beloved) also needed attention. Without practices to support my growth, my sub-personalities, which cause much of the discord in my life, needed to be acknowledged, embraced, thanked, and promoted into retirement. My many wholeness practices give me richer life experiences, broaden and strengthen my sense of self, thereby allow me to make better choices.
In short, I've been developing my NVC skills and participating in personal growth journeys with Animas Valley -- both of which have helped me to get out of my matrix-box of engineering to dedicate my life to contribute to a more compassionate world. I see an opportunity to exponentially impact the world by bringing these two paradigms together.
My hypothesis is that NVC role plays with our various parts, as identified by the Wild Mind four facets of the self, will help us befriend our subpersonalities and contribute to wholeness -- discovering the connected self you always dreamed of. Would you join me in this grand experiment?
Dream of Organizational Collaboration for Social Change
I have come to realize how NVC compliments Wild Mind (and Animas Valley Institute), and how Wild Mind compliments NVC. My vision is to establish a relationship between CNVC and Animas Valley, as they both have similar missions for social, spiritual and environmental sustainable change. Mainly that NVC offers a conversational connection piece that Animas needs, and Animas Valley offers an embodied nature-based life-change piece that CNVC (and the world) needs. My sense is that both organizations would be more effective together than apart.
* Nonviolent Communication -- A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. | The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC)
* Wild Mind - A Field Guide to the Human Psyche by Bill Plotkin, Ph.D. | Animas Valley Institute
Series Desired Outcomes
During the online session, you will be guided to identify and connect with different facets of yourself, and then engage with other participants from these facets.
You will need access to a wild or semi-wild area for nature-based practices each week, which happen outside of our Zoom group time. Participation in the series requires a commitment to also engage in the outdoor practices (minimum 1 hour each week).
This intermediate offering is for those who have some skill in NVC, you have read the book Nonviolent Communication, participated in NVC groups for at least 6 months and you are comfortable with the following:
* owning and taking responsibility for your inner experience
* reliably distinguish between observations and evaluations
* familiarity with feelings/needs
* you must be able to identify different parts of your self as guided by the facilitator (e.g. identify the part of you that is critical of a decision you made), or at least be willing to act out a part out in order to get value out of this series.
* accessing embodied feelings
* familiar with needs consciousness
* know how to give yourself empathy, identifying feelings and needs (self-attunement)
* are comfortable and skilled at giving empathy to others
* are able to express yourself authentically with compassion
* have the ability to make clear/doable positive action requests
Approach for Weekly Sessions
1. Breakout/Council check-in circle around nature practices and experiences (from previous outings)
2. Theory: Wild Mind model of four facets of wholeness or corresponding sub-personalities
3. Online Practice: Engaging our facets of wholeness or sub-personalities in Zoom breakout rooms
4. Define and Discuss nature based outdoor wholeness practices
5. Outdoor Practice: Solo practices in nature (1 - 2 hours per week)
Cultivating Intrapersonal Wholeness (4 weeks)
* Befriend your Enlightened Inner-Giraffe — embodied feelings/needs, NVC consciousness, an empathic presence that knows what's true for you, expressing yourself with compassion
* North: Nurturing Generative Adult — compassion, contribution, meaning
* South: Wild Indigenous One — full embodied feeling
* East: Innocent/Sage/Trickster — presence, knowing, understanding, play
* West: Dark Beloved Muse — creativity, imagination
Befriending our Intrapersonal Subs (4 weeks)
* North: Loyal Soldier
* South: Wounded Child
* East: Addict, Escapist
* West: Shadow
Cultivating Interpersonal Wholeness (4 weeks)
* North: Elder, Leader, Teacher, Manifester, Activist, Parent, Mentor, Healer, Empathy, Queen/King
* South: Wild Woman (Artemis), Wild Man (Green Man)
* East: Innocent, Sage, Sacred Fool, Trickster
* West: Magician, Wanderer, Psychopomp, Soul Guide
Befriending our Interpersonal Subs (4 weeks)
* North: Rescuers (Caretakers, Codependents, Enablers), Pseudo-Warriors (Robber Barons, Tyrants, Critical Parents)
* South: Orphans (Conformists, Victims, Rebels, Princes/Princesses)
* East: Blissheads, Addicts, Puers/Puellas
* West: Monsters, Devils, Gurus, Heroes
Note: The purpose of this training is to provide information and practices for Nonviolent Communication combined with Wild Mind. While you're invited to bring real life triggers, we only work with feelings of intensity 5 or less out of 10 (being the most intense). Participants are responsible for their own personal safety.
About the facilitator
James is a nature enthusiast, author and Certified NVC Trainer. He’s been involved in personal growth programs since the mid-1980’s, participated in many workshops, retreats and 12-step recovery. He began his journey into nature based spirituality in the late 1990’s. After publishing his book “The Joy of Compassionate Connecting - The Way of Christ Through Nonviolent Communication” in 2010, he participated in a Franciscan-inspired men’s rites of passage in 2011. He continued his growth journey through Mankind Project New-Warrior training and integration groups. He participated in Animas Valley Institute’s “Wild Mind Intensive” in Feb 2018, and had his first 12-day Vision Quest in the Anza Borrego desert in Feb 2020 (just before the COVID lockdown). He’s currently an Animas Valley apprentice in the Wild Mind Training Program (WMTP). He’s passionate about the intersection of Animas Valley inspired work with Nonviolent Communication as a way to contribute to “The Great Turning” ► a thriving compassionate world. Click here for extended bio.
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"I've attend his workshops as well as 1:1 training on using NVC. He's incredible, his listening skills as well as ability to exude empathy is very infectious. He is an excellent teacher, very passionate about bringing NVC. His ability to manage a crowd is truly admirable - driving home points on empathy in time-bound workshop -presenting conflicting situations among a very interactive and diverse crowd, while still driving his agenda within strict time limits. I highly recommend working with James."
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