Free Yourself INTEGRATION: 5 weeks Wed Mar 24 @12pm Pacific (Online)

Free Yourself INTEGRATION: 5 weeks Wed Mar 24 @12pm Pacific (Online)

149.00 - 299.00
This INTEGRATION 5 week series is for participants of the 10-week "Free Yourself From Reactivity" series. The intention is to deepen practices, support questions, and further exploration of the concepts.

Would you like...
* more self-control and ease in challenging situations?
* freedom from reacting to imaginary bullets coming at you?
* skills for getting back to fullness after being triggered?

Join us for a 5-week INTEGRATION series focused on self-connection through Nonviolent Communication (NVC) practices online through Zoom starting Wed Mar 24, 2021. First Session Free.
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Dates: Monday  3/24, 3/31, 4/7, 4/14,  4/21 (2021)

Times: 12:00pm to 1:30pm Pacific Time Zone (Core Session is 1.5 hours)

Optional: 1:30pm to 2:00pm Pacific Time Zone (Providing 30 minutes for additional discussion and questions)

Optional: An additional 30 minutes free coaching session is available for those who haven't had one yet.



  • “My experience with James and his NVC expertise has been a fun and enlightening journey! I’m in much gratitude for the multi dimensional teaching James brings to his full body yet simplistic teaching style of compassionate communication. I was open-hearted and wanted to dive deep quickly: this course was perfect for a spiritual experience of healing my souls need for connection, peace, & joy! James is a thoughtful, energetic, and intuitive teacher: I was especially impressed and appreciative of James’ out of the box thinking re: feelings & needs that incorporated a deepening connection to ones self, others, and Source/Spirit/God! Very grateful my friend recommended this course to me.” In much gratitude, Celia Hoenig, LMFT, Sep 2020

  • "This 10-week class series, 'Free Yourself From Reactivity', has been the very definition of a Life Changing Experience for me.  Taking the time to really absorb the lessons and slowly integrate the NVC strategies has been far more beneficial than simply attending a short workshop or one-day seminar.  I have found that James' class series opened my eyes & heart to a new way of interacting with the world.  I would recommend this class without hesitation to anyone who found themselves struggling to express and/or cope with their feelings & needs." -- Sep 2020
  • "I highly recommend this course. I learned many tangible skills, strategies and ways of processing that are now central to my entire family's way of communicating. This has fostered a fundamental shift in how I will endeavor to communicate with loving kindness. I highly recommend this course to couples and families. I will also be able to use these practices in my professional work with clients! I hope you sign up and take this powerful course!" Anne Hockett, Founder You!Healing International, Sep 2020
  • "Free Yourself from Reactivity was an enlightening next step in my NVC journey. I learned the process of developing my own self-management practice for Reactivity that is true to my needs. James chose appropriate material for each session that was a "curated collection" of his own vast NVC experience, going far beyond a Basic NVC Introduction. James made good use of Break Out Rooms and experientials." Sam Lebowitz, Pharmaceutical Engineer, Charlotte, NC, Sep 2020
  • "I enjoyed every session of Free Yourself From Reactivity. It moves at a comfortable and engaging pace, and James' presentations are really clear, informative and well organized. He covers some really important and impactful communication and relationship skills, and covered a lot of territory without giving me the feeling of rushing. This course is a great introduction to NVC, and provides good amounts of practice time. James is a clear, highly skilled and very caring trainer! And he attracts interesting and caring people into his classes and community. Thank. you James!", Catherine Cooley, Principal at Peaceabl, Sep 2020


Location: Zoom link provided with registration.


My Story

Not long ago, I used to get triggered often -- i.e. means that something set me off to react automatically. One day at lunch with colleagues, someone said something I didn't like and I responded in ways that I now regret. At another time in a work meeting, I reacted to hearing opinions that differed from mine. I'm embarrassed to think back to how that may have landed for them. I'm now surprised at how quickly I reacted without thought to the consequences.


After years of personal growth work, coaching and training in Nonviolent Communication, I've synthesized practices that help me stay grounded, present and clear headed. While I still occasionally get triggered, I've noticed the frequency of occurrence is hugely reduced, and my recovery time is much shorter -- within seconds, for most things, and within a day for the big ones. In short, I have tools to stay calm most of the time and to choose how to respond in difficult situations instead of reacting.


My Learning/Facilitation Style:

My offerings and personal NVC practice are inspired by many NVC trainers over 19.5 years; though primarily Marshall Rosenberg, Jim & Jori Manske, Mary Mackenzie and Robert Gonzales.

My active area of research relates to NVC and nature-based depth psychology as described by Bill Plotkin’s book titled “Wild Mind.” I created the “Heart-Canvas” as a tool for self-empathy. I also published a book in 2010 on “The Joy of Compassionate Connecting.”

What I’ve noticed about my learning style is that it follows more of a spiral than a linear process. That means that I find value in trying and experiencing a variety of things, integrating them into my daily practice over time. This includes training with a variety of NVC trainers and other modalities, as everyone seems to provide a unique perspective of our collective "language of life.”

Recognizing that his spiral is common to the learning styles of many others, I find it helpful to define a high-level outline for my classes, let participants try (and sometimes stumble through) a high-level process, and then spend time going deeper into the experience of each step.

For instance, I learned about “Zero Step” and “Layers of Empathy” 10 years ago from Jim & Jori Manske. As I look back at what they were teaching at the time, I now have a deeper appreciation and respect for the gift of those teachings. I’ve internalized much of what I’ve learned through years of practice.

Another example, I experienced first-hand with Marshall Rosenberg the power of presence in empathic role-plays. I shared with him some deep old pain associated with the transition of my primary relationship and becoming a Dad. The experience was so cathartic that I felt a rush of energy released from my body. I’m still integrating that experience, waking up to how my own childhood affected my ability to show up as a partner and father.

The “8-steps to Stop Trigger Bullets” could be seen as that high-level outline for this course. There is so much more to learn, practice and grow behind each one of those steps. The more you practice, the easier and faster it becomes. Like Neo in The Matrix, at some point, it clicks and you’re able to see and stop the trigger bullets for what they are...



Unfortunately, most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand, diagnose, to do things out of guilt/shame, and to think and communicate in terms of what is “right“ or “wrong“ with people. Our "implicit bias" fosters the creation of "enemy images" of those who look and behave differently than us. When un-examined, "implicit bias" results in racism.

We also blame others for our feelings, as if they caused them. Even worse, we might blame ourselves for other people's unpleasant feelings. The habitual ways we think and speak hinder communication, and perpetuate a culture of comparison, guilt/shame and punishment. Without wanting to, even people with the best of intentions generate needless conflict because of the lack of clear boundaries of personal responsibility.

In our culture, we are taught to stuff emotions, to “suck it up” and “be tough” -- we value the intellectual mind while minimizing the sensory information from our bodies. We are often driven to be “selfless” in our giving, to give even when we don’t have resources available, and that our "needs don’t matter;" as a result, we create long lists of expectations of others that bring stress in relationships, all the time we experience disappointment, resentment, and anger without spaces to be heard and understood -- eventually leading to some form of violence to ourselves or others. Over time, this pattern repeats itself until something breaks.

Our own “inner critic” has a tremendous impact on our mood, and we aren’t taught tools for dealing with them. At work especially we are encouraged to wear a mask to pretend everything is okay even when it’s not. Conflict arises when different positions are expressed, people’s emotions get triggered and usually blame others for them. The loudest voices and bigger titles usually win. It isn’t safe to be real; instead we are encouraged to be “nice.”


A New Paradigm:

The inner practice of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) invites us to take personal responsibility for our thoughts, judgments, feelings, needs and to make clear and doable requests. We learn processes for translating our judgments into the heart of our experience. By getting clear on our feelings and needs, we find inner peace, clarity and sense of empowerment.

Communities and organizations that practice NVC have enough emotional safety that difficult conversations happen more frequently with better outcomes.

Universal human needs/values, which are the heart of NVC, include personal needs (e.g. autonomy, mastery, honesty, adventure) as well as interpersonal needs (e.g. caring, consideration, collaboration, community, equity, reciprocity, and forgiveness). Needs are often confused with strategies (what we leverage to meet our needs), resulting in conflict.

This simple -- yet powerful shift in our perspective and habits creates groundedness, self-empowerment and choicefullness -- replacing our tendencies to react impulsively. From a place of self-connection, we are at peace and better able to make choices that contribute to fully living.

NVC is a non-judgmental paradigm of relating that includes introspection, deep listening with empathy, and honest expression. NVC was started by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD in the 1960s. Today, NVC is taught around the world, and has been applied in a wide variety of contexts, including business and nonprofit settings. Formal studies have begun to document the benefits of NVC, which include organizational effectiveness, increased efficiency, and support for individual well-being. For more information, go to



  • You will feel inner peace, contentment and happiness more often
  • The frequency and intensity of your triggered reactions will diminish with practice
  • You will learn tools to find and maintain self-connection, and to return more quickly when you're triggered
  • Your community and peers will notice more stability in how you show up


About the Series:

We will meet as a group once a week for 1.5 hours. Sessions typically will start with self-connection practices, followed by Zoom breakout rooms of 2-3 people for everyone to check-in. After re-connecting in the larger group, we'll dive into various self-connection practices based on NVC -- there's a combination of structured learning and improv learning through large room and small breakout room practices. Finally, we close out the group with a "check-out" of how we're feeling after spending time together. After closing the core session, a smaller group spends another 30 minutes of unstructured discussions and questions. One free 30 minute coaching sessions is offered to each registered participant.

  • The presentation slide PDF is sent to participants at the beginning of the session, and available for download
  • All registered participants will have the opportunity to practice independently with others through a rotating self-empathy buddy system (1 or 2 calls per week for 30 minutes)
  • Optional homework is assigned each week


Learning Objectives:

  • Recognize when you're triggered into unconscious reactions
  • Identify your types of unconscious reactions
  • Discover strategies to interrupt reactions
  • Make conscious choices to take personal responsibility of thoughts, judgments, feelings, needs
  • Recognize and step out of your preferred role in the Karpman Drama Triangle
  • Identify the stories, judgments, implicit bias that you hold
  • Translate judgmental thoughts to uncover your personal truth
  • Iterate through your experiences to identify core needs/values
  • Transform regret into self-forgiveness and peace
  • Develop awareness and fluency of your universal human needs/values
  • Develop your own daily self-connection practice to free yourself from reactivity
  • Tap into your natural curiosity, creativity and insight -- listen for strategies
  • Create clear-doable strategies for meeting your needs/values

Zoom link provided with registration.


Note: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is not therapy -- not a clinical service. Nonviolent Communication is a "language of life" -- reference the book with that title by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. The purpose of this training is to provide information and practices for NVC self-connection. While you're invited to bring real life triggers, we will only work with feelings of intensity 5 or less out of 10 (being the most intense) -- i.e. not working with trauma. Participants are responsible for their own personal safety.


Requesting $149 for 5 sessions (effectively $30 per session) -- special pricing available for "Low Income/Students". First session is Free (same Zoom as previous series -- email me if need Zoom link). You may also send money through PayPal to (as friend to avoid fee), PayPal with a fee, or Venmo @Jaime-Prieto-8.


About the facilitator:  Hi, I'm James Prieto. I enjoy facilitating dynamic interactive workshops with experiential learning. I blend structure along with organic back and forth covering the material using improv. I've been practicing NVC since 2002, and have been facilitating NVC since 2005. I received NVC trainer certification from the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) in 2014, which took about 3 years to complete. I've had over 100 days training with experienced teachers Marshall Rosenberg (creator of NVC), Mary Mackenzie, Robert Gonzales, Jim & Jori Manske, Roxy Manning, Kirsten Kristensen and others as part of my growth journey. NVC is my passion and way of life. I'm dedicated full time to bringing NVC to individuals and organizations in Silicon Valley and online. For more information on my offerings, go to

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1. Services Provided
2. Prices And Payment
3. Shipping And Delivery
4. Guarantees And Warranties
5. Returns, Refunds And Complaints
6. Limitation Of Liability
7. Intellectual Property Rights
8. Future Changes
9. Governing Law

1. Services Provided
Consulting, Coaching, Training, Facilitation services are provided. Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is not therapy -- not a clinical service. Nonviolent Communication is a "language of life" -- reference the book with that title by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. The purpose of coaching and training is to provide information about NVC related practices. While you may be invited to bring real life situations for practice, we will only work with feelings of intensity 5 or less out of 10 (being the most intense) -- i.e. not working with trauma. Consulting clients, coaching clients and workshop participants are responsible for their own personal emotional safety.

2. Prices And Payment
Prices for workshops or events are listed in the website; promotional codes may provide discounts to stated prices. Hourly service prices are negotiated and agreed by all parties and confirmed via email. Payment is expected before the scheduled session begins. Services scheduled may be canceled without penalty if done with 24 hours notice.

3. Shipping And Delivery
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4. Guarantees And Warranties
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5. Refunds And Complaints
Requests for refunds are handled on a case-by-case basis, in a good-faith effort to acknowledge everyone's needs. Some trainings require changes to be notified some time before the event and are listed in the event description. Complaints should be directed through the Contact form on the home page; the consultant providing the service will communicate in integrity with the values of nonviolent communication (NVC). If an impasse is reached, and the stakes warrant, another NVC mediation will be used to address the complaint.

6. Limitation Of Liability
Liability is limited to the cost of the services provided. Not liable for any indirect damages that may occur.

7. Intellectual Property Rights
All materials provided in trainings, workshops or coaching sessions are copyrighted and for personal use only. 

8. Future Changes
From time to time we may change the Terms & Conditions either because of changes in our business, or due to changes in governing law. If you opt-in to the mailing list, any changes will be included at the bottom of the next newsletter.

9. Governing Law
These Terms & Conditions follow applicable laws of the City of San Jose, the County of Santa Clara, the State of California, and the United States of America.
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