Bring your fears, your joys, you longings — it’s all welcome here. We’ll leverage Zoom breakout rooms for skill building practice, introducing a different concept of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) every week as part of a 10-week series.
Dates (Wednesdays): 10 weeks starting 9/23/2020
Times: 12pm to 1:30pm Pacific Time
Register for the Free sessions, please go to Meetup or Facebook to RSVP for the Zoom link.
DESIRES: Most of us want connection, to be known, to be understood and a sense of belonging. Even deeper, we want agency in how we show up in the world -- to develop skills that can improve the quality of our relationships, to deepen our sense of personal empowerment and to communicate more effectively.
CHALLENGE: Unfortunately, most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand and diagnose; to think and communicate in terms of what is “right“ and “wrong“ with people. At best, the habitual ways we think and speak hinder communication and create misunderstanding and frustration. And still worse, they can cause anger and pain, and may lead to violence. Without wanting to, even people with the best of intentions generate needless conflict. In our culture, we are taught to stuff emotions, to “suck it up” and “be tough”. We are often driven to be “selfless” in our giving, to give even when we don’t have resources available, and that our needs don’t matter. Our own “inner critic” has a tremendous impact on our mood, and we aren’t taught tools for dealing with them. At work especially we are encouraged to wear a mask to pretend everything is okay even when it’s not. Conflict arises when different positions are expressed, people’s emotions get triggered and usually blame others for them. The loudest voices and bigger titles usually win. It isn’t safe to be real; instead we are encouraged to be “nice.”
A NEW PARADIGM: The intention behind NVC is authentic connection, to get to a “symphony of mutual understanding.” Through NVC, we get to take off the mask, to fully express what’s true for us in the moment, while allowing others the same privilege. NVC encourages valuing dialogue over any particular outcome; to listen for what’s real and alive for everyone participating. Giving a framework for compassionate communication, we learn the importance of separating fact from opinion, to fully acknowledge and take personal responsibility for our feelings and to make clear doable requests. Beyond having a model, NVC can be practiced as a way of life.
The main session video will be recorded and made available to registered group participants (in case you can't make it, or want to review the session). The breakout rooms are not recorded.
Requesting $249 for 10 sessions -- special pricing available for "Low Income/Students". First session is Free. You may also send money through PayPal to email@example.com (as friend to avoid fee), PayPal with a fee, or Venmo @Jaime-Prieto-8.
About the facilitator: James enjoys facilitating dynamic interactive workshops with experiential learning. He has been practicing NVC since 2001, and has been facilitating NVC since 2005. He received his CNVC trainer certification in 2014, which took about 3 years to complete. He’s had over 100 days training with experienced teachers such as Marshall Rosenberg (creator of NVC), Mary Mackenzie, Robert Gonzales, Jim & Jori Manske, and others as part of his growth journey. NVC is his passion and way of life. He’s dedicated full time to bringing NVC to individuals and organizations in Silicon Valley. For more information on his offerings, go to CompassionateConnecting.com
About NVC: The intention behind NVC is authentic connection, to get to a “symphony of mutual understanding.” Through NVC, we get to take off the mask, to fully express what’s true for us in the moment, while allowing others the same privilege. NVC encourages valuing dialogue over any particular outcome; to listen for what’s real and alive for everyone participating. Giving a framework for compassionate communication, we learn the importance of separating fact from opinion, to fully acknowledge and take personal responsibility for our feelings and to make clear doable requests. Beyond having a model, NVC can be practiced as a way of life.
NVC is a non-judgmental paradigm of relating that includes introspection, deep listening with empathy, and honest expression. NVC was started by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD in the 1960s. Today, NVC is taught around the world, and has been applied in a wide variety of contexts, including business and nonprofit settings. Formal studies have begun to document the benefits of NVC, which include organizational effectiveness, increased efficiency, and support for individual well-being. For more information, go to CNVC.org
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