Date/Time: Saturday May 2, 2020 from 9:30am to 5:30pm
Location: Online Zoom link available with registration.
Are you wanting...
Most of us are hungry for skills that can improve the quality of our relationships, to deepen our sense of personal empowerment or simply help us communicate more effectively. Unfortunately, most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand and diagnose; to think and communicate in terms of what is “right“ and “wrong“ with people. At best, the habitual ways we think and speak hinder communication and create misunderstanding and frustration. And still worse, they can cause anger and pain, and may lead to violence. Without wanting to, even people with the best of intentions generate needless conflict.
Challenge: In our culture, we are taught to stuff emotions, to “suck it up” and “be tough”. We are often driven to be “selfless” in our giving, to give even when we don’t have resources available, and that our needs don’t matter. Our own “inner critic” has a tremendous impact on our mood, and we aren’t taught tools for dealing with them. At work especially we are encouraged to wear a mask to pretend everything is okay even when it’s not. Conflict arises when different positions are expressed, people’s emotions get triggered and usually blame others for them. The loudest voices and bigger titles usually win. It isn’t safe to be real; instead we are encouraged to be “nice.”
A New Paradigm: The intention behind NVC is authentic connection, to get to a “symphony of mutual understanding.” Through NVC, we get to take off the mask, to fully express what’s true for us in the moment, while allowing others the same privilege. NVC encourages valuing dialogue over any particular outcome; to listen for what’s real and alive for everyone participating. Giving a framework for compassionate communication, we learn the importance of separating fact from opinion, to fully acknowledge and take personal responsibility for our feelings and to make clear doable requests. Beyond having a model, NVC can be practiced as a way of life.
Intention: to create a safe space for learning and practicing NVC. To model NVC as we learn NVC. Of course we also want to experiment and have fun together as we use our new skills.
Agreements: 1. Confidentiality (don’t share other people’s experiences), 2. Consent (we stick to agenda until we change it with consent, you may pass at any time), 3. Compassion (we are all doing our best to meet our needs in every moment - this is a “no judgment zone”), 4. Connection (this is the intention behind NVC)
Beginners and intermediate practitioners of NVC will benefit. This workshop is for anyone with an interest in improving their communication skills in all contexts (relationships, parenting, leadership, coaching, organizations, etc). The workshop is highly interactive, with a focus on experiential learning.
Cost: This workshop is priceless! Please give what you can joyfully in the spirit of a gift economy, as this work contributes to a more compassionate world. Scholarships available upon request. No one turned away for lack of funds. You may also send money through PayPal to email@example.com (as friend), or thru Venmo Jaime-Prieto-8 to register.
About the facilitator: James enjoys facilitating dynamic interactive workshops with experiential learning. He has been practicing NVC since 2001, and has been facilitating NVC since 2005. He received his CNVC trainer certification in 2014, which took about 3 years to complete. He’s had over 100 days training with various trainers including Marshall Rosenberg (creator of NVC), Mary Mackenzie, Robert Gonzales, Jim & Jori Manske, and others as part of his growth journey. NVC is his passion and way of life. He’s dedicated full time to bringing NVC to individuals and organizations in Silicon Valley. For more information on his offerings, go to CompassionateConnecting.com
About NVC: NVC is a non-judgmental paradigm of relating that includes introspection, deep listening with empathy, and honest expression. NVC was started by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD in the 1960s. Today, NVC is taught around the world, and has been applied in a wide variety of contexts, including business and nonprofit settings. Formal studies have begun to document the benefits of NVC, which include organizational effectiveness, increased efficiency, and support for individual well-being. For more information, go to CNVC.org
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