tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5009014527549950493.post8779579127264040674..comments2008-02-06T16:00:00.230-08:00Jameshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12837143104812294701james.prieto@compassionateconnecting.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5009014527549950493.post-23676190504684008902008-02-06T16:00:00.000-08:002008-02-06T16:00:00.000-08:002008-02-06T16:00:00.000-08:00Thanks Tam for your comment, and for being willing to talk about how scary it can be to give honesty, especially when you are thinking that it comes at the expense of connection and acceptance. I often feel anxious and afraid around giving honesty for the same reasons. I am coming to value how important it is to create "safety" in a group, such that judgment is somehow contained or curtailed (by calling out the "jackals"), so that participants get their needs for acceptance and trust met.James Prietohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12837143104812294701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5009014527549950493.post-7925746917707733202008-01-31T04:35:00.000-08:002008-01-31T04:35:00.000-08:002008-01-31T04:35:00.000-08:00oooh, remember marshall's session on 'scary honesty' and how he said we need to learn to enjoy seeing the recipient freaking out! hee hee. i am having problems with scary honesty all the time. i am in SO many situations where certain people are doing things which do not meet my needs (amongst which also hyper intellectualised conversations that frankly, bore me) and i don't dare say a thing for fear of my need for connection/ acceptance/ inclusion not being met ...Tamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09876331215978519541noreply@blogger.com